The real beauty

When I was in my teenage years, I have this perception that I'm not pretty and never good enough for anyone. There were countless time I stood in front of mirror and wonder what should I fix in myself so that I can at least be close to being 'pretty'. Most of my cousins are fair skinned and slimmer than me. And some of them love to belittle me by pointing to my chubby cheeks, huge hips and my height. Growing up with these kids makes me to reach for cosmetics to make myself accepted by others. 

I used to apply whitening creams and wear make ups to hide my flaws. Eventually the effort of trying to be pretty turns to an obsession. There's just always something not right with my body and the way I look. After so many attempts failed to satisfy me, I soon realized that being pretty starts with accepting yourself for who you are. You can never satisfy yourself unless you start to realize your own potential. I started to build my confidence in different ways, without relying on my looks. 

I have also learned over the years on how to see beauty in others. If you look close enough, there's something unique and extraordinary about each one of us. After all, what we see is the reflection of our own thoughts. The phrase 'beauty is in the eyes of the beholder'  started to feel real for me and its definitely true in so many ways.

Now whenever I see myself in the mirror, I see an imperfect girl with soft eyes and the ability to see beauty in others. A smile appears on my chubby face when I realize real beauty lies in imperfections, not in the measurement of my waist.

Celebrate 'YOU'

I was taking a ride on the local bus the other day,as usual the bus was crowded with workers and a bunch of school-uniformed teenagers. As expected, the bus was so chaotic and noisy, but somehow I still managed to grab a seat and silently spend some moments with my book. Surprisingly, my eyes wasn't on the pages, but on more to the conversation that's going on between the teenagers. Okay fine!! I was actually eavesdropping them :/


I managed to get some glimpse of what they are talking,Okay here it goes, there were three students (two girls and one guy),I have seen them before,in the same bus but it was weeks ago,and I still remember them because they were making so much noise the other day too.


The guy made a jokingly remark about one of the girl's body weight,and surprisingly the girl fought back with a bet. She challenged the guy that if she doesn't reduce her weight in one month, she would've had her name changed to something else. She added that after she had reduced her weight and straightened  her hair,there'll be lots of guys queuing behind her..
I was like....

I don't know why I felt that way,maybe because I was expecting a different answer. For God's sake,there's nothing wrong with her appearance though, she has a normal body weight, i mean she looks perfectly healthy and she has a very beautiful curly which i find no reason to straightened  it and what make me angry when she's doing all this just to attract guys...LAME.!!!!

I can't blame her though, we were brought up that way. The definition of beauty is over-rated,like we already fix on our mind that beautiful people are someone who's tall,slim,fair and so on. Beauty has no definition. Everything created by God is beauty itself and you are beauty too because God hand-created you.

It's essential for us to concentrate more on the inner part rather than spending bucks on repairing the outlook appearance. 

For me, real beauty can be seen through eyes, felt by heart and touched by words

You are beautiful and so do I :) So celebrate your uniqueness and celebrate yourself!!!!

P.S :For every beauty there is an eye somewhere to see it.

P.P.s: I have to acknowledge  Viya and hamza for the awards,will do it soon :):) 

What's the big deal?

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What's there in  skin color? Does it matter what color someone has? Does it show the characteristic of someone? Okay,what are colors? Colors exist in different type.Red,yellow,blue..just to name a few. So skin colors are just like those colors.We can accept different colors in life but then why we tend to discriminate people who have dark complexion?If you can accept red for your curtain  and green for handbags,why can't you accept someone with dark complexions? They just have different type of color than us! So what's the big deal?


Recently I have came across someone who make a very immature remark on skin color.According to that person,educated girls don't have fair complexion and fair looking girls are not educated meanwhile the other side are expecting a girl that comes in a package! But what's even more appalling is that most of the 'educated' guys (by the way,they're few exceptions) making way for their parents to make this kind of  mistakes!!!So there's no difference between these people and those early American who discriminate the Africans.


Even babies are not spared from this issue. As soon as a child is born,the first question that would be asked is whether the baby is fair or not,not even what gender the child belongs too!!!One of my aunt actually applied Fair & Lovely cream to her newborn because her baby has dark complexion.=.=''''


And the cosmetic manufacturers are not helping at all.They often display advertisement that shows the  fairer looking girls are more appealing and will receive more marriage proposals than the dark skin girls.


So,this is what we gonna teach our children?




I guess its the time for us to act like humans,real humans..