Monday, January 20, 2014

The world of Introverts

On my previous post, I have slightly hinted on how much I prefer to be in solitude, to not be disturbed by anyone even my close friends and family members. However, one can easily misinterpret solitary as loneliness. Honestly I have never felt lonely when I'm with myself, only among the crowd that I cant fit in. Over the years, I have been complaining on how much I have changed, and how I hated the changes in myself from an average extrovert to an extraordinary introvert. Especially in this fast paced world, one is expected to be an extrovert, so that they can easily engage with the society and strive in whatever path they have chosen for themselves.  But I have come to a realization that there's nothing wrong or humiliating by being an introvert. We are just doing fine in being ourselves.

One of the misconception  about introverts is that they are mostly labelled as someone who has low self esteem, someone who will be left out without an invitation on weekends or without a date during prom night. Most of the time introverts are happier when  they are left alone because mingling with others and engage in unnecessary talks take too much of their energy.

I prefer to be in solitude. I prefer to pull down the blinds,lock my room with a good cup of coffee rather than loitering around aimlessly in shopping malls with a group of people that I can never relate to. I prefer to turn my eyes on the pages of my favorite book rather than faking my smiles to the people who doesn't matter in my life. The problem than I am facing now is with my family members. Sometimes I feel as if I'm in an overcrowded room and I often felt as if  I was left with a tiny space that makes me struggle to even stand on my own feet. Sometimes this feeling also resulted in  guilt of turning my back on my friends and family members.

I have embraced solitary,just the same way I breathe fresh air. That's how I am now. Icy cold. People who loves me shouldn't complain about that and if they do, they are loving the wrong person.






9 comments:

  1. I definitely agree that introverts are misjudged on a regular basis. I am an introvert myself and I have always enjoyed life's quiet moments :) gives me time for introspection :)

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    1. Exactly, sometimes i just want to be left alone with my own thoughts

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  2. Ummm I prefer loitering around in the mall...but alone. No friends, no acquaintances......
    I am not an introvert but everyone has a time when u just want to be alone. I love it!

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    1. I have done that ..loitering around in the mall, alone..

      It feels good

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  3. Solitude... Its complicated. When you need others the most, you might find yourself alone. Its better to have people populate our lives.

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    1. Yeah, sometimes introverts feels the need to just be alone..but they are never lonely

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  4. People that are comfortable in their solitude are the strongest of people. Enjoying one's own company is the height of contentment. Those that have a constant need to be surrounded by people are said to have lower self-esteem. They need attention, as if they're almost afraid of being alone. I think that introverts are the most powerful, with the strongest of minds.

    Solitude is a beautiful thing!

    By the way, I really want to follow your blog but I can't seem to find a follow button :(

    Thank you for all your comments on my blog throughout the posts, I read them all and appreciate them. <3

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    1. Thank you dear for your beautiful words.Solitude is a beautiful thing.

      No worries, I enjoy reading you <3

      Let me fix that follow button..

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  5. Fake smiles and fake people never give the satisfaction that one can find by being solitary and reflecting on one's self... doing what is desired instead of sorting around with a whole lot of opinions of different people!
    Your views are beautifully expressed!

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